Prayer For A Friend Sharon Spitko
In our grief, distress and misunderstanding we must acknowledge that the sudden loss of any illness is unexplainable. Death over life goes against life that flows from the heart of God. Everything God touches and is is about is life.We know that it is his will that we live.
Someone wrote,”If there is a God in it, it doesn’t matter in any way how we feel about it: it is unbelievably precious and immeasurable and endless thing. But the most nagging questions unanswered and not understood in the immediate time of grief; why? Hounds our thought. If the questions were answered and we had an answer the riddle would still be unanswered.
The family who grieves sudden loss carries a very hard burden and a special grief which in itself is never easy alone but when death in a sudden happening from illness where you are unable to be with the person in the last moment is a tear on everyone even the sick who wants to feel and see the support themselves. Suicide can’t equal out yo sudden loss of loved ones to illness except that they are both sudden and you don’t always get goodbyes. One mother who’s son took his own life explained the sudden loss as carrying a book bag filled with boulders. The book bag may be filled with regret that we can never comprehend, feelings of failure another day and guilt that you weren’t able to be there or help them out. No matter what’s in that book bag it always weighs us down. To the family and friends, those left to suffer through the suddenness of the unexplained situation we offer up our prayers, love, advice and support as you begin to reshape your lives. It is never easy with grief alone but even tougher in the unexplained.
What questions can we ask And what answers can we expect? Some questions we form we hesitate to ask in fear of receiving the answers we may get, while some answers can be worse than no answers.
The suffering in their own thought in the beginning process may have the feelings of failure and that they can not carry on without the person involved whom lost their life. Now we need to remind them and remember that it’s okay to grieve but laughing and smiling and remembering the person and their life is better that suffering and dwelling for ourselves. Make new friends, mingle around. Celebrate the times you had and share the stories enjoy that which you have left in your life about your life with that person that will never leave us.
The struggle is never easy and yes it isn’t as common as many other losses and is a bit unusual sometimes even in biblical, historical and contemporary ways.
In the face of this, how must we respond? We the living have responsibilities to fellow citizens of the community and world we live. We do not know what cause sudden death but we must remember the good times, laugh and share the legacy that lives on with and through us. It can burden us where we had no knowledge resulting in overwhelming tension, anxiety, failures, unresolved feelings of guilt, emptiness and loneliness. It can also take a mental toll own us with suffering depression, loss of self, loss of reality this struggle is truly terrible and terrifying and pulls us out of our very own comfort zone.
We must be compassionate and understanding even though it may be forceful, heavy and strong on our inner selves and complicated dealing with. We should be sensitive to the needs and cries of help that will set face in the families, friends and colleagues. We should take Coronavirus seriously it is nowhere near the normals of life.
We should help to get the family counseling to prepare them for the long difficult grieving process and for healing of their torn souls. We should Pray for them and with them throughout these difficult times and ever after. These simple things could make the slightest difference to someone continuing in their life without that person we lost. We should humble to the knowledge that we all are so much more fragile than we know. What we feel and can do can hardly be understood apart from our past and present life circumstances. We must all keep in our mind that God is with us carrying a and walking with us down these challenging roads of the unexplained and questionable understanding.
Any illness can destroy the body in many ways or take a life, but it can never take a spirit. The Bible truly states and clarifies that we can goto heaven or hell based souls on our relationship to Jesus Christ. But God, who has abundance in mercy, because of his love that he had for us, has made us alive with Christ even though we were dead in trespasses… for you are saved by grace through faith, and this is not far from yourselves; it is God’s gift (Ephesians 2:4-5,&8) we can have knowledge and believe that through scripture which so firmly assures us, all who have trusted Jesus Christ can never be separated from his eternal love.
Do you think anyone is going to be able to drive a wedge between us and Christ’s love for us? There is no way! Not trouble, not hard times, not hatred, not hunger, not homelessness, not bullying threats, not backstabbing, not even the worst of sins listed in the scripture….none of this fazes us because Jesus lives us. I’m absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead , angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—-absolutely nothing can get between us and God’s live because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us (Romans 8:35-39, MSG)
In the midst of our questions and grief over this distressing and complex heartache, we turn our own hearts to the supreme truth: We have a Savior who, in troubled times, is fully unshakable!
This is the time that we walk through this windstorm of life—that we find our footing in the shifting sands of the emotional feelings and mental anguish by looking to Jesus who promised, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. I do not give as the world gives” (John 14:27)
We stand on God’s word in times like this and times of great trouble, for his Word teaches us the greatest truth, offers the greatest good, meets our greatest needs, and holds out the greatest hope. May we have hope knowing that those loved ones are no longer suffering and that in God’s time the tragedy may one day bring testimony and blessings and good that may be unseen right now. Remember even in the worst stories there lies stories of hope as well. God be with you and bless you in Jesus name Amen!